Crises are humbling times when we rightly realize that we are not ultimately in control over our lives or our children’s lives. Yet we are called on to make countless decisions and lead our families, helping provide stability and hope. As parents, how do we lead our families when we don’t know what’s around the next bend?
In the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5:5, Jesus says, “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth.” The ESV Bible note explains, “The meek are the 'gentle', those who do not assert themselves over others in order to further their own agendas in their own strength, but who will nonetheless inherit the earth because they trust in God to direct the outcome of events.” *
In his book, Parenting, Paul Tripp suggests, “Good parenting lives at the intersection of a humble admission of personal powerlessness and a confident rest in the power and grace of God.”^ Like our children, we need parenting. We are sinners in need of a Savior. We need grace. Praise God, our Heavenly Father is near and graciously gives us all we need.
When you feel like you’re drowning, sometimes you need a friend to say: “Dear, stand up! The water only comes up to your knees!” God created you for your child and your child for you. He makes no mistakes—you are the parent God wants for your child, and He will equip you with all you need. Like the psalmist, ask Him for help, often.
In the face of crisis and throughout Scripture, God has given His children two promises and two commands: “I am with you; Do not fear; Be strong and courageous; I will never forsake you.” His nearness now and forever gives us confidence to lean into Him for the courage to lead our families well.
“God, this is a hard, new season I don’t know how to navigate. Help me. Thank you that you are good and are in control. Show me how to rest in humility and stand in confidence all because of your nearness. I need you."
While times of crisis are challenging and throw us off our game for a season, we should allow for time to adjust and find new individual and family rhythms. A posture of humility before God and confidence in his calling will help us rest in the midst of change to lead and love our families well.
*Michael J. Wilkins, “Note on Matthew 5:3.” Holy Bible: English Standard Version, Study Bible, Crossway Books, 2011.
^Paul David Tripp, Parenting:14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family. Crossway, 2016.
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